Healing our hearts

Healing our wounded hearts is a lot of fun, isn’t it? What’s often the most difficult at first is trying to find a way of seeing hope. Because when we’re broken, we’re broken. It kind of depends on how our hearts have been wounded. The specific kinds of trauma we endure. Because those traumas, those […]

We need to be known

I’m tickled that several people enjoyed (and unfortunately could relate to!) my last post about the struggles of online dating. It stinks! So why do I and so many others choose to put ourselves through such an ordeal? The obvious answer is because we hold out some amount of hope that we can find someone […]

Loneliness (and being human)

*sigh* Well, I’m lonely again. Those of us who have been single for any significant period of time can relate, as can a lot of us who are in or have been in challenging relationships. Loneliness is a kind of depression, or it’s at least closely connected. There is a sense of hopelessness and despair […]

The ecstasy of falling in love

I’ve been reminded of what it’s like to fall in love, which is weird since I was a hopeless wannabe romantic for much of my early adulthood. It’s funny how you can forget for a variety of reasons without even realizing it, whether you’re married or single. The delight of flirtation given and returned; the […]

Sex and marriage aren’t the answers

I couldn’t tell you why, but starting around the age of eight, the thing I wanted most in the world was to be married. I became one of those brooding teenagers who wrote poems, overly dramatic letters to girls I pine for, and identified with every 90s rock song about love or broken hearts or […]

Rebel flags and same-sex marriage

American society has had an eventful few weeks regarding cultural debates and decisions, to put it mildly. A heinous act of evil that resulted in the tragic loss of life in Charleston, South Carolina has led us to question some of the vestiges of our past – namely, the continued flying of the battle flag […]

Sex, happiness and meaning

If you can’t sleep, might as well write about sex, right? As a single guy in his early 30s, I do my fair amount of thinking about sex. Two or three months ago I wrote a mini-series on this blog about sex. And yet there’s more to say, if only because I am continually struck […]