Healing our hearts

Healing our wounded hearts is a lot of fun, isn’t it? What’s often the most difficult at first is trying to find a way of seeing hope. Because when we’re broken, we’re broken. It kind of depends on how our hearts have been wounded. The specific kinds of trauma we endure. Because those traumas, those […]

The weight of being single

Anyone who knows me well (or has read my book – buy and/or review it here) knows I’ve been single my whole life, and that fact used to depress me a lot. When I was younger, I was obsessed with being married, and I thought my happiness was contingent on it. For many reasons, though, […]

Love lost and numb

The relationship I’ve been in for the last few months ended the other day. It’s been a bit on-again, off-again as hinted at in other posts of mine over that time frame. For those of you who know me well, the timing is somewhat ironic, as my rock-bottom moment in life came around 10 years […]

Sex, happiness and meaning

If you can’t sleep, might as well write about sex, right? As a single guy in his early 30s, I do my fair amount of thinking about sex. Two or three months ago I wrote a mini-series on this blog about sex. And yet there’s more to say, if only because I am continually struck […]

Being single

Here’s the post I never wanted to write. I don’t like talking about being single. At this point in my life, people don’t like talking to me about being single. To be completely honest, most of the time it isn’t a big deal. It’s taken several years, but I’ve finally learned to enjoy it a […]