We need to be known

I’m tickled that several people enjoyed (and unfortunately could relate to!) my last post about the struggles of online dating. It stinks! So why do I and so many others choose to put ourselves through such an ordeal? The obvious answer is because we hold out some amount of hope that we can find someone […]

The weight of being single

Anyone who knows me well (or has read my book – buy and/or review it here) knows I’ve been single my whole life, and that fact used to depress me a lot. When I was younger, I was obsessed with being married, and I thought my happiness was contingent on it. For many reasons, though, […]

Sex and marriage aren’t the answers

I couldn’t tell you why, but starting around the age of eight, the thing I wanted most in the world was to be married. I became one of those brooding teenagers who wrote poems, overly dramatic letters to girls I pine for, and identified with every 90s rock song about love or broken hearts or […]

Rebel flags and same-sex marriage

American society has had an eventful few weeks regarding cultural debates and decisions, to put it mildly. A heinous act of evil that resulted in the tragic loss of life in Charleston, South Carolina has led us to question some of the vestiges of our past – namely, the continued flying of the battle flag […]

Being single

Here’s the post I never wanted to write. I don’t like talking about being single. At this point in my life, people don’t like talking to me about being single. To be completely honest, most of the time it isn’t a big deal. It’s taken several years, but I’ve finally learned to enjoy it a […]

What is love? (baby, it can hurt me)

We tend to get bent out of shape and let our emotions and biases throw off how we view all sorts of things in life. Perhaps more than with any other issue, this is especially true when it comes to love. Misunderstandings over love are more central to bad communication, bad philosophies, and bad policies […]