We need to be known

I’m tickled that several people enjoyed (and unfortunately could relate to!) my last post about the struggles of online dating. It stinks! So why do I and so many others choose to put ourselves through such an ordeal? The obvious answer is because we hold out some amount of hope that we can find someone […]

The abject misery of online dating

Written in homage to Dave Berry Many of you have not had the privilege of participating in our society’s virtual version of Thunderdome, online dating. If this is you, fear not! I will share with you what this painful exercise in existential horror experience is like. First, some context, because what a person brings with […]

The weight of being single

Anyone who knows me well (or has read my book – buy and/or review it here) knows I’ve been single my whole life, and that fact used to depress me a lot. When I was younger, I was obsessed with being married, and I thought my happiness was contingent on it. For many reasons, though, […]

My book is Available

After many years of work, I’m thrilled to announce my book, “Lost the Plot: Finding Our Story in a Confusing World,” has been published by Resource Publications, an imprint of Wipf & Stock, and is immediately available for purchase (follow the link)! Thank you to everyone who has followed this blog over the years, though […]

The scars of our fathers: Remembering John Secord

The trauma of generations past can impact us today, but healing can be found.

Christian sins: misplaced identity and making enemies

If we are truly going to do our best to make a better society to live in, there are a whole lot of tough truths we are all going to have to face, and the largest one is likely this: we’ve been wrong about a lot of things. No matter who you are or what […]

Accepting yourself, accepting love

I’ve struggled with self-hatred for many years. I have a very difficult time giving myself any grace or forgiveness for the mistakes I’ve made and the struggles I’ve had. I hate my character defects and the way I’ve succumbed to fear and panic; the pain they’ve caused others. Over a year ago, a good friend […]