This is 40

My somewhat-rambling reflections on turning 40.

The scars of our fathers: Remembering John Secord

The trauma of generations past can impact us today, but healing can be found.

In memoriam: Gerald A. Wisener (1941-2020)

Gerald Wisener passed away on Friday, August 21 at age 78. He was the youngest son of Albert Newton Wisener and Helen Louise Nushawg Wisener. He was my uncle. My mom was an only child, and Gary was my dad’s only sibling, so he’s the only uncle or aunt I had. He never married and […]

Status update on my book

A handful of my followers will know that I’ve been slowly putting a book together and likewise will be interested to know that I have finished my first draft and several rounds of complete edits. Some close friends will soon be taking a look at it to provide the perspective of some fresh eyes and, […]

The need to remember, lest we forget

It’s been a hard couple of years. I was ridiculously stressed at my job, only to switch positions and – four months ago – lose it altogether. I’ve recently moved. I’ve had a complex love life. I’m dealing with the increasing physical affects of aging more rapidly. My daughter has left childhood for puberty and […]

Seeing yourself, owning your guilt

It’s sometimes painful to look in the mirror. Anyone who knows me can attest that I do a lot of self-reflection, sometimes way too much. There are a lot of reasons I do it, and one of the least important of those is because I don’t like to be blindsided by my own culpability when […]

Thoughts on life

When I’m down in the dumps, my mind often gravitates to larger existential questions: What am I doing? What’s the point to my life? What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow? Deep stuff. So I find myself lying in bed typing on my phone pontificating about my existence. Relationships with the opposite sex […]