When friends abandon you

“My heart is in anguish within me; the terrors of death have fallen on me. Fear and trembling beset me; horror has overwhelmed me. I said, ‘Oh, that I had the wings of a dove! I would fly away and be at rest. I would flee far away and stay in the desert; I would […]

The weight of being single

Anyone who knows me well (or has read my book – buy and/or review it here) knows I’ve been single my whole life, and that fact used to depress me a lot. When I was younger, I was obsessed with being married, and I thought my happiness was contingent on it. For many reasons, though, […]

“I Love Jesus, but I Hate the Church”

Man, can I relate to this sentiment. I’ve had a rocky relationship with a handful of churches. Several of my friends have been abused in a variety of ways by different ones – emotionally, relationally, spiritually. Physical abuse by churches is often plastered on the news. Many (maybe even most) churches are broken. When we’ve […]

My book available now

Lost the Plot: Finding Our Story in a Confusing World, available in paperback, hard cover, and eBook on Amazon, Bookshop, and Wipf & Stock

My book is Available

After many years of work, I’m thrilled to announce my book, “Lost the Plot: Finding Our Story in a Confusing World,” has been published by Resource Publications, an imprint of Wipf & Stock, and is immediately available for purchase (follow the link)! Thank you to everyone who has followed this blog over the years, though […]

Christian, the time to step up is now

I have many dear friends who have given up on the Church. I am incredibly sympathetic, because I have been struggling and wrestling with my relationship with the Church for several years now, myself. These friends are across the ideological spectrum – they’re Christians of both the “progressive” and “traditional” variety, and they have different […]

How churches manipulate us

It’s really hard for church leaders to recognize when they’re wrong. If you’re a pastor or any other kind of leader within a church, chances are good that you have very noble intentions and believe the things you do and say are motivated from a place that honors and respects God and the church. Because […]